Why Some Godly Women Struggle to Find Godly Men
There’s a sacred longing in the heart of many godly women—a desire not just for companionship, but for a partner who walks in covenant with God, reflecting His character and purposes. Yet, the journey toward finding such a man can often feel like a desert pilgrimage: dry, lonely, and fraught with confusion. Why is it that women who are deeply rooted in faith sometimes struggle to find godly men? The answer is rarely simple, but it is profoundly spiritual, layered with God’s refining hand and the realities of brokenness in a fallen world.
Unpacking the Complex Realities
First, let’s acknowledge this: singleness, broken relationships, and unmet expectations are not signs of spiritual failure. They are part of God’s sovereign design—crafted with layers of testing, growth, and preparation. Sometimes, the struggle arises because the marketplace of relationships is cluttered with counterfeit connections—men who profess faith but lack the fruit of the Spirit, men still wrestling with their own identity in Christ, or men not yet called to marriage.
Secondly, unrealistic expectations—though often rooted in a desire for holiness—can unintentionally become barriers. When a woman demands perfection from a potential partner, she might miss the beauty of grace working in and through imperfection. God calls us to steward love with discernment, yes, but also with patience and humility. The quest for a “perfect” godly man can sometimes reflect our own fear of vulnerability or the desire to control the outcome instead of surrendering fully to God’s timing.
A Divine Invitation to Surrender
In the tension between longing and waiting, God invites us into a deeper surrender. Psalm 27:14 exhorts us: “Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!” This waiting is not passive but active faith—a bold trust that God is preparing the right man for you and preparing you for him. It is a holy partnership with God’s timing, an intimate dance of faith and patience.
Release the need to control the timeline. Rest in the truth that God’s plans for you are “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11). Even when the silence stretches, His purpose is always at work—refining, healing, and strengthening.
Healing and Wholeness: Foundations for Love
Many godly women carry invisible wounds from past hurts—broken trust, disappointment, or familial pain. These wounds can create barriers in receiving and recognizing the love God wants to bring through a godly man. Healing is not optional; it is essential. Before you can fully embrace a godly partner, you must embrace God’s healing touch on your heart.
Empowered Stewardship of Singleness
Singleness is not a waiting room; it is a sacred season filled with divine opportunity. It is a time to deepen your purpose, sharpen leadership, and build legacy. The single woman who walks boldly in her God-given calling radiates a power that draws the right man—not as a replacement for purpose but as a complement to it.
A Prophetic Declaration Over Your Love Life
By the authority of Christ, declare over yourself today:
“I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I am equipped and prepared for the covenant love God has designed for me. The right partner is being prepared by God’s hand to walk beside me in destiny and purpose. I release every fear, every control, and every unrealistic expectation into God’s capable hands. My singleness is sacred, and my season of waiting is fruitful. I am a woman of purpose, power, and prophetic destiny.”
Practical Steps to Walk in Purpose Now
- Engage in Healing: Seek counseling, prayer ministry, or trusted community to heal past wounds.
- Cultivate Community: Join women of purpose groups or ministries where accountability and encouragement abound.
- Stay Rooted in Purpose: Use this season to pursue your God-given calling relentlessly.
- Practice Daily Surrender: Begin and end each day committing your love journey to God’s perfect will.
You are not alone. There is a sisterhood of purpose-driven women walking this path alongside you. Join us at Today’s Purpose Woman community, where faith, healing, and empowerment meet. Together, we rise.
Prayer for the Woman Waiting on God’s Timing
Holy Father,
I come before You with a heart that longs for Your perfect will. In moments of waiting, when the silence feels heavy and the road seems uncertain, remind me that You are near—working all things together for my good. Strengthen my heart, Lord, to wait with courage and faith. Help me to surrender control, to release fear, and to trust that Your timing is perfect.
Heal the places in me that carry wounds and disappointments, and fill me with Your peace that surpasses understanding. May I walk boldly in the purpose You have called me to, confident that You are preparing not only the path before me but also the partner You have ordained for this season of my life.
Lord, let my singleness be a sacred offering—full of purpose, passion, and power. Teach me to steward this time well, to love deeply, and to shine brightly for Your glory. When the waiting feels long, help me remember that Your promises are sure and Your love never fails.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Beloved daughter of the Most High, your journey is not defined by the seasons of your relationship status but by the steadfastness of your faith and the fire of your calling. Trust that God is orchestrating every detail—even the delays and detours. He is faithful to bring forth a godly man who will walk beside you, not as your completion but as your covenant partner in destiny.
Until that day, rise in purpose. Embrace the fullness of your singleness. Lead with grace, love with courage, and live with the boldness of a woman who knows her worth is anchored in Christ alone. Your story is still unfolding, and it is one of hope, healing, and divine destiny.
Keep your eyes fixed on Him, for He is your reward. The best is yet to come.
Reflection Questions:
- How is God using this season of singleness to prepare your heart for what’s to come?
- What fears or expectations might you need to surrender to God today?
- In what ways can you steward your purpose and influence while waiting?
